My boyfriend has never gotten me to orgasm and he never lasts for longer than 15 minutes but I really want to keep him. What do I do? (Don’t say talk to him because he doesn’t take criticism very well)
This is always a difficult position, and I’ve gotten pretty inventive when I’ve needed my man to last more than a few thrusts…. (what can we do, when you are as hot as we are, well guys have problems handling us…. ;) ) While there is always the chance of a medical problem, in most cases it’s just inexperience, and lack of clearing those pipes… It can be tricky without actually saying hey, um, I’m not climaxing hunny…. So there is the penis ring, this has some good results, but beware, the situation can turn a kinky man even hornier…thus him popping quicker… The best method I’ve found is let him enter round #2. Sooo, get things intense with foreplay, kiss, rub, suck, get his quick load off… once you swallow his load, make a pouty face, and tell him you wanted fucked hard, continue to massage his dick and balls, try your hardest to keep him hard. I also have pre-milked my guy, with a little hj or bj early in the day, while it’s not as effective as round #2 right away, it adds plenty of time for the naughty time. Finally one of my favorites and normally blows his mind, just randomly look into his eyes and ask him I you can watch him pleasure himself to climax… in most cases this will turn me on like wow! Finally take control, and put your orgasm in your hands, if you feel that cock pulsate, and him make his O face. stop the action, smack him and tell him “don’t even think about it, mommy hasn’t came yet!”…. It’s tricky, but if worse case scenario and you are in an orgasm-less relationship… you might need to have a talk, if it offends him to the point of breaking up, well it will probably be a bummer, buuuuut the good news there are guys out there that will deliver multiple O’s before delivering his warm sticky semen….. ;) Good luck love to hear how it turns out!
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September 17, 2013 at 9:49 PM
Sounds like he needs to practice orgasm control. Edging helps get past mental stimulation by learning how to stop abruptly before cumming, (not during sex) continuing to whack it, and repeat process for 20+ minutes then stop without cumming altogether. Eventually he should learn how to suppress mental stimulation and go for as long as you would like him to. Unless, he is easily physically stimulated then he should practice edging with a stanima fleshlight, the pocket pussy closest in feel to an actual vageen.
September 18, 2013 at 12:38 AM
Jenny gives some great advice here. It’s no secret that we can last longer on rounds two, three etc. Although, if a woman smacked me in the face and told me not to cum until mommy cums, I’m pretty sure I’d lose it immediately. But my advice would be to talk to him about it. Your boyfriend isn’t unique, no guy takes criticism well when it comes to his sexual abilities. If he really cares about you he’ll want to know that he’s not satisfying you sexually. It’s concerning to me that he doesn’t recognize that already. It tells me that he is either oblivious to your needs or he’s too selfish to care. Your boyfriend should want to be the fuck of your life and in my opinion he should do everything he can to please you. Guys can learn to delay their orgasms and last as long as you need if they want to. Just gotta squeeze that pc muscle and control the pace when things get hot and heavy. So, that’s my two cents if you were looking for a man’s perspective. Good luck.
September 18, 2013 at 1:01 AM
Oh yeah, the PC muscle. I forgot to mention that, very important part of orgasm control. A weak and/or unbalanced floor can cause premature ejaculation as well and is crucial for edging/practicing. He needs to do kegels and reverse kegels, very easy to do and can be done at anytime. It’s imperative to have them balanced because if the flexing is more developed than the retraction, the prostate could be squeezed causing ejaculation. It’s about becoming familiar with the PC muscles so you can time it to block of the flow of semen while you continue to thrust away. Eventually he would be able to feel the semen flowing and be able to stop it before the “point of no return”.
September 18, 2013 at 1:09 AM
Oral sex. Plain and simple. I make sure she cums before I even take my Dick out. Although I find daily masturbation a big help…I’m up to about 45 minutes now with PC control, slowing the pace and plain old manual homework. If he’s not getting you off tell him! It may hurt his feelings but at least u can work up from there with compliments when he does well
September 19, 2013 at 4:29 PM
Everyone seems to be forgetting (or pretending to) that 15 minutes is over 3 times longer than average. I can still occasionally cum in under 30 seconds. But the main reasons you last longer as you get older are that you are not as excited by sex, and you are having sex with women who are looser.
If you’re calling him your boyfriend, I’m assuming you’re in your teens. If so, he’s well above the norm.
But, if you want him to last longer, try a position where he’s standing up. There’s nothing like an uncomfortable position to prolong things.
Or you could try pressuring him to hurry up and come. Sounds harsh, but that one is guaranteed to work.
Thicker condoms work well to reduce sensitivity. Also a few drinks helps as well. And by a few I mean a few too many.
You could also try having a TV on to distract him a little. And maybe cut down on the moaning and sex-faces. Looking down and seeing a woman really enjoying your cock, can really hurry things along.
September 20, 2013 at 2:24 AM
I think she just needs to sit naked with him, have the conversation face to face, maybe cry together for a little, explain how you like the round 2 and how some nights you want it ruff to climax and keep fucking. Hopefully he doesn’t get mad and throw his phone at you, or kick your cat or Stella out the room. After reaching your moment you jump in to the shower for round 3 but you want to get messy first with whip cream. Have a little spray fight and fuck on the shower walls. Dry up to fuck in the other room till your pussy starts to plump and quefe and you can’t take being swelled any more.
October 8, 2013 at 12:51 PM
I’ll tell you my secret. I can cum quick but to stop myself I play a song in my head Eminem Cum on Everybody
It’s stops me from cumming but keeps me going hard idk why but it distracts me from the orgasm
September 3, 2015 at 10:20 AM
Blah blagh bloh bla, something’s gotta give ! Women up, say ” man up “, or the expiry date will cum too.